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20 Lessons I Learned by 20

Happy August 4th! To you it is a normal day, but to me it is my day of birth. The day I blessed the world with my presence, you're welcome. I mean you should probably thank my mom, she did most of the work. I wasn't the only legend born on this day, however, so don't forget to send a happy birthday message to my favorite ex-prez, Barack Obama.

Anyway, I digress, which I usually tend to do in the intros of these things. What better day than your double decade birthday than to reminisce on your past and all of the wonderful things it taught you? That's what we're doing here today. I present you with twenty things I've learned in my twenty beautiful, short, vibrant, and complicated years on this earth.

1. Life is short. 

It's cliche because it's the cold hard truth. 

2. If you don't laugh at your own jokes no one else will. 

Some say the first rule of comedy is to not laugh at yourself, but to those people I say, "you're really not going to like my set then, huh?" (insert crash cymbal noise) (yes, I did laugh at this)

3. Take the time to learn how to do something new. 

It helps revives your mind and gives you a new perspective. 

4. Listen to your loved ones, they sometimes know you better than you know yourself. 

If ya friend says the dude is trash, he probably is. 

5. A little dance party can fix just about anything. 

I mean, not literally, but can you really be upset while dancing and singing along to "It's Raining Men"?

6. Coupons are king. 

With apps, the Internet, promotions, and coupons being shipped right to your door these days, there is absolutely no reason you should be paying full price for ANYTHING. 

7. Explore your home state. 

Still in the process of this one, but I'm learning that Ohio has some hidden gems I didn't even know about. 

8. Never apologize for being happy. 

Anyone who allows this to happen doesn't deserve to see your smile, cheesy but TRUE. 

9. Find out who your real friends are. 

Sooooo difficult to do, and understand, and agree with, but sooooo totally worth it. 

10. Try new foods. 

Finally told myself one day it was time to try sushi and now I'm HOOKED. Do it. 

11. Save some money. 

Whether it's for college loans that you'll inevitably have to pay back, a rainy day fund, or a future backpack trip through Europe, you're going to need some funds, so put some extra cash away. 

12. Find a mantra, a scripture, a quote, a motto, and live by it. 

My favorite quote by e.e. cummings is simple, "The most wasted of all days is one without laughter."

13. Pick a passion, or let it pick you. 

Passionate people are some of my very favorites for a good reason. 

14. Put down your phone. 

Leave it in a room and leave. Turn it on do not disturb for an entire dinner. HECK! Delete one of your most used apps for 24 hours. Detach, it's okay to. 

15. Pizza is always an appropriate meal. 

Did you really think I could last an entire blog post without mentioning it at least once?

16. Treat yo'self. 

Seriously, treat yourself right first because no one else has any obligation to. 

17. "Me" time is N E C E S S A R Y. 

Even if you're the Michael Phelps of extrovert-ing, take some time for yourself every once and a while. 

18. Snap a pic. 

Maybe it's just me, but photographic memories are one of the best things in the world. The memory of that moment comes flooding back to me when I look at the snapshot of smiling faces or the cool architecture. 

19. Health is wealth. 

Mental, physical, emotional, all of it. Keep it in check. (I still need to work on this one but I'm trying to be better)

20. Regret nothing. 

Mistakes are made for a reason. Bad times make the good times greater. I'm a firm believer in the "everything happens for a reason" mentality, it will change your life completely. 

So many cliches, so many bad jokes, so many life lessons. Thank you for virtually spending part of my birthday with me. The best gift you could give me would be sharing this with your loved ones so they, too, can learn how to make the next 20 years as rockin' as my first.


  1. It's crazy how much someone can learn, even in our short lives. Here's to 20 more!


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